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What’s the best way to help our kids calm down? What about calm down rooms, mindfulness jars, choice time, breathing techniques, 1-2-3 Magic? Often these are just different ways of saying, “You have got to calm down.” (Because I am having trouble handling your emotions.) We think when our child has a melt-down the solution […]

How to help your kids calm down

Do you ever say… 👉 Use your words… 👉 I’ll talk to you when you can calm down… 👉 Take some deep breaths and calm yourself down first. Do these phrases leave space for them to feel their emotions? OR Are they forcing our children to ignore their feelings to get them to calm down? […]

Common phrases…

Many of us moms are in a hurry to feel 💙 better. I get it…life can be painful and hard. We don’t want to feel upset, frustrated, disappointed, or angry so we try to stop the emotions by getting them over as fast as possible. → We get frustrated that our kids aren’t listening. → […]

Feel now – Slow Down

👉 When the siblings are fighting what can we do? 1. Don’t wait. As soon as you can go over to them when you hear they are upset. 2. Take a minute to look at each of them in the eyes and collect their smile, eyes, and a nod. This establishes a working relationship. 3. […]

Sibling Rivalry

It wasn’t my child who needed to change their behaviors it was my thinking that needed to change.❤️❤️ That’s what I realized all those years ago. It was a 🖐 full-stop moment. 👉 What if we believed that our kid’s behaviors weren’t good or bad? 👉 What if we didn’t see their actions as good […]

My thinking needed a change…

When I thought my kids should always do the right thing, and I punished them when they didn’t. I accidentally created a belief that perfectionism was possible and the goal. 💔 My kids started believing they couldn’t live up to my standards and thought I wanted them to be perfect. When they couldn’t live up […]

Punishments don’t teach what we think they’re teaching

When you don’t stay calm when your kiddos start fighting, making messes, or having melt-downs it’s not your fault. ❤️❤️❤️ 👉 You are fighting against what our society believes about parenting. Society tends to believe our kid’s SHOULDN’T HAVE EMOTIONAL MELT-DOWNS OR OFF-TRACK BEHAVIOR. So when our child has a melt-down, talks back, or ignores […]

Don’t Beat Yourself Up

What attributes do you want your child to have when they’re grown? Without exception when I ask this question I get these kinds of responses… 👉 Kind 👉 Motivated 👉 Empathetic 👉 Compassionate 👉 Passionate 👉 Driven 👉 Service-Oriented 👉 Focused 👉 Loving So…how do we help our kids develop these traits when we use […]

Your Child’s Attributes

Listening👂 is a parenting superpower. 💥 When our child… >> messes up >> tell us about their hard day >> complains about homework >> is sad because of what a friend said to them >> doesn’t want to do their chores >> is mad because we said no We often want to jump right in […]

On Listening

Backtalk is developmentally normal. 🧠 We call it a lot of things…backtalk, pushback, being sassy, etc… It doesn’t feel good in the moment…but it’s part of growing up. Kids need space to find their voice and need to learn how to disagree if they don’t like what’s going on. We want them to learn to […]

Backtalk is Normal

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