Punishments don’t work

I thought using punishments and rewards would change my kids for the better.

But the method is the message.

We can’t teach kindness while yelling.

We can’t teach patience while impatiently telling them to stop their meltdown.

When we forget…

“that growth, development, and maturation are natural processes, we lose perspective. We become afraid our children will get stuck and never grow up.” – Gordon Neufeld

Leaning into connection and creating a dreamy relationship with our kids is the key to helping our children learn all the important lessons we are wanting to teach them.